Stop trying to just "figure it out" as you go, and make motherhood your MAIN era✨.
Learn how I went from dreading each day with my kids, counting down the hours to bedtime, and just "winging it", to stepping into my role as a mother with more confidence and connection with my kids, and most importantly, a really good energy within myself.
But the truth is, there is a better way. Motherhood is about stepping into your new role, without feeling like you're getting "boring" or "old", or just plain sad. Motherhood is an opportunity to step into the young woman you always wanted to be - the one who has her sh** together, who knows her boundaries and her limits, who prioritises her family and free time, and who takes good care of herself.
All other mums will tell you no one knows what they're doing, that they all had to figure it out as they went, and that your kids' behaviour is developmentally normal - so deal with it.
I remember my 30th birthday, and my sister made me two videos: one to put on instagram (it looked all nice and pretty), and one of the "real" me - to send between my siblings, our partners and I. I'll never forget how I looked in that video. In my old robe, old glasses, hunched over looking down at my phone, feeling completely miserable and stuck in survival mode with my two little ones. And the saddest part was that as I looked at my little girls, I realised - they are only going to get bigger, and I know one day I am going to miss these early years with them and wish I made more of this time with them. When they're at school, obsessed with their friends more than me, and I'm chauffeuring them to after-school sports and activities. And, I'd also miss these years when I'm in my 30s. They'll never be this little, and I'll never be this young again. I spent the most part of my 20s studying and surviving in other ways, and now I was doing the same thing in motherhood. Books, courses, and podcast faves later, I learnt that I get to do motherhood differently to how it's normalised in society. I get to be the leader of my family, looking after myself and running my home the way I want, in a way that encourages more love and wholeness. This gets to be my MAIN era, the era where I have my own beautiful family with loving partner and daughters and all, and I get to be happy, energetic, and my best self.
Join me on this journey!
Don’t just hustle through these early years of motherhood like everyone else does. You can make it through to the other side without burning yourself out - and instead actually enjoying these early years with your baby.
meet, Alana...
When you realise that motherhood is actually your strength, your entire energy changes.
When I went from 1-2 babies, safe to say, I was miserable. Every day was survival mode, and every task in the day felt hard. Every snack was one too many, every shower took an immense about of organisation and effort, and every meal-time or bath-time or whatever it was, was filled with stress. I was touched out, and although I loved my little ones, it was like I was battling with a certain resistance to this lifestyle with kids now, every single day. Do I really have to figure out dinners every night for the next 20 years?! Will anything that's mine ever be my own again? Will this life feel hard forever, only getting worse as they get older - especially into the teenage years? After deciding I am not going to settle to live like that for the next decade or more, instead of blaming motherhood for becoming this sad old boring person who has lost her sense of herself, I learnt that this season gets to be the time where I actually become the best version of myself yet. The version who loves her kids, and laughs with them, and loves looking after herself, and the home, and having mindful meals at the table with her little ones every night.
